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5. You involve others in your problems
Nothing could be more damaging to a relationship than involving a third party in your problems. If you want to keep your bond strong and sacred, do not go on a whine trip to others who are most likely going to have biased opinions anyway. Talking to others makes your partner feel low and demeaned, besides the fact that the person being spoken to will see your previously ‘perfect’ partner in a totally different light, no matter how fair they show themselves to be.
It also makes it look like your relationship is not strong enough to be sorted out between the two of you. Involving third parties creates a permanent crack in your relationship, as well as the relationships between the involved third parties and your partner. It also drives your partner to a stage where he/she will always be on pins and start shying away from being honest with you.
If you do feel like discussing your relationship problems with someone other than your partner, the best option is to approach a completely unbiased and unattached individual like a professional relationship counsellor, who will give you objective advice.
6. Giving ultimatums has so become your thing
Do you throw an ultimatum at your partner each time you quarrel? Well, ultimatums do not work – they are juvenile and only create negativity and suppressed frustration. Most people in relationships threaten to leave if things don’t go their way.
Your partner may do what you say to keep the peace, but there will be underlying resentment in their mind. It is always better to talk things out and reach a reasonable agreement rather than threatening to walk out. And if you feel like your relationship is just not working despite your best efforts, it’s best to leave rather than stay based on conditions. Love is and should be unconditional.
